We all have someone we look up to for some reason; wisdom, answers, advice,… There are a few people in my life that truly have an impact on me, because the things they say match the things they do. There are no empty words coming from them. They truly set an example! One of them is Jessica Capshaw. I’ve written a few blogs about her, because the impact she has, on not just my life, is big.

Since today it is her birthday, HAPPY BIRTHDAY JESSICA, here are 10 lessons I learned from Jessica Capshaw.

Never give up. Keep trying!

I’m not afraid. If I fall on my face, I’ll just get up and wipe my knees off and go on.

Not all ‘negative’ moments are bad

Over time you gain access to a certain amount of ease. You realize that things can get messy, but sometimes the messiest moments have the most magic. What comes out of the those moments is beautiful.

Stop worrying about everything in your life.

Being impervious to your elements is sometimes a good thing. And it’s not that you should be without feelings or without care. But most of the time whatever you’re worried about isn’t worrisome. The only person who you should take stock in is yourself, and the people who you love. Those are the only opinions that should matter.

You are BEAUTIFUL. Believe that!

Beauty comes from within. You must come out believing in yourself.

Set your priorities straight

Family is always going to be the most important thing in my life.

Making mistakes is part of our lives

I think you can do something bad, and it doesn’t make you a bad person. We are not defined by any one choice. We are the sum of our experiences, and we can make a bad choice and turn around and do better.

Value each other

What I feel is that we are all, genuinely, born great. We all deserve the same chances, we don’t always get them. And then once we are in the world, making our own way, we certainly deserve the chance to be who we are, be valued. As long as you are not hurting anyone. We can all do better, we can all value each other a little bit more.

There is something good in everything.

The obvious thing to remember is that without dark, there is no light, and without light, there is no dark.

Don’t be selfish

I don’t know if it’s ever OK for someone to be selfish. Perhaps there’s a time and place to be self-centered, but I think selfish never wins the race.

There is more to life

It’s never bad to be liked, and who doesn’t feel good being liked, but that can’t be your end game goal.